Everything Changes

Day 49 / 366

Let’s talk about change.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned in life is that nothing is permanent. I won’t say that I am a master in handling changes. I still obsessively try to keep things the same as long as I can. I hate changes. Yet I know that real progress and real happiness can only come when you accept the fact that everything changes.

I am not the same person I was at 25, or 20 or 15. And I am glad that that is the case. Do you think that you will be where you are in life if everything remains the same? your interests, your friends, your likes and dislikes?

The thing about change is that you can only appreciate in retrospect how good it was for you. When you are going through it though, you feel horrible. You wish to cling on to things that feel comfortable. You want to pause time and delay the future as much as possible. But that will not make the pain any less.

There is no success without sacrifice. To reach somewhere, you have to get out of somewhere. That’s just the way it is.

I am not saying that you should forget the past, just wipe it out of your memory. You should just not cling to it. Appreciate it, and be thankful for the experiences you have. You cannot change the past, but you can change the future. Yet, we all keep fixating on our past and keep replaying it in our heads. What could I have done differently? How could I have saved things from falling apart?

There is no point in regretting the past. As the song goes — “Don’t look back in anger”. Keep the happy memories with you safely. Reminise and smile about them whenever you can. Do not hold grudges. Learn to forgive. Stop trying to change things and let the universe reveal what it has in store for you!